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Girlfriends' Guide to Forty: Setting Intentions

Intention: noun
A thing intended; an aim or plan.

Like anything in life, we must set intentions. We set intentions not to sleep in and get up early enough for work. We set intentions to remind ourselves to set the crock-pot on low, so we don't burn dinner. We also set intentions for our self for other things like our health, to take our vitamins and do some routine yoga.

Everything in our life is revolved around the intention we put toward it.

Today, my intention was to leave the house.

I am a teacher by trade, and this year I haven't taken, or been offered a contract. Like many things in life, things we plan just don't go as expected. Having a conversation with a new friend yesterday solidified that. Both of us are newly graduated from Masters programs in our forties and both of us admittedly feel completely lost in our journey's.

Although she is a former Yale student, and a current Berkley graduate, the pressure is on to get hired at a top architecture firm and pass her certifications to be a licensed architect. She couldn't stress enough that although she has spent a considerable amount of time going to school and earning a degree from a well-known prestigious university, that she is discovering that life does not give you everything that you dreamed of.

Now I am not sure if this is our generation, anyone who is in their forties right now was born between 1970-80 and for us, the idea of success and happiness is based off a completely different mindset than say someone in their 20's or 30's. Of course, it's supposed to be that way. Every decade things change, they're different, and we're all working on how to understand one another in many, many diverse ways.

I was born in 1974. The same year KISS released their first album. Now I can say that that is some pretty damn cool shit, and no way in hell is the focus of this blog going to revolve around age. However, to write well, you need to write what you know. Right now, I know that I am grounded in the intention that today I will not feel sorry for myself for the fact that because I am at midlife, my shit should not be stinkin' right now.

Have you ever felt this way? We all should have that house with the white picket fence, right? 

In fact, most of my friends feel more lost now than ever. When you get to this point in your life, you are not dealing with simply this aspect. Life becomes more complicated. You have different health issues. You have ailing parents, you have kids, you have marriages, you're single, you're dating, you may or may not be having sex. Hell, there's lots of topics.

Topics that I am planning on discussing in this forum, and soon a podcast.

I am not saying that being in your forties is the end neither. Although I do joke about now being halfway to death. It's not the end. Contrary, it's the beginning.

In that, the intention that I am putting out there, is to not think about what is NOT happening in my life today, and think about the aim towards understanding algebra (my nemesis) and getting myself closer to the 60% that I need to successfully pass this teaching exam.

Also today I remind myself that life is beautiful and life is definitely good. I am going to be a grandma soon! In a month! More on that later. Until then, have a fantastic day!

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